Empowering The Child
Most parents feel inadequate, perhaps for good reason, but that doesn’t mean that parents can’t learn the skills they need to be more effective in their task. And you may not realize this, but your child really does want you to succeed as a parent. Your children may never tell you, but rest assured that they are as interested in your success in parenting as you are.
It’s possible that most parents feel unprepared to empower their child, but that doesn’t mean they can’t acquire the knowledge and abilities necessary to do so. Your child truly does want you to be a successful parent, even though you may not be aware of this. Although they may never admit it, your kids are just as concerned about your parenting success as you are.
What will you discover in “Empowering the Child” then?
How to really nurture your child
When to compliment and how to condemn
How to demonstrate and practice unconditional love
The difficulty of setting rules and why they are so important
The value of dedicated time with your child
Learning the best way to carry on a conversation
What to build into your child’s life now to ensure lifelong success
And much more.. While we can’t possibly cover everything a parent might ever need to know, the lessons you’ll discover when you acquire your copy of “Empowering the Child” will set you on the correct path. You’ll be happy you took the time to study and apply these principles, I assure you.
Acceptance and Empathy
Sometimes kids just want someone to listen to them and aren’t looking for assistance. When your youngster confides in you about an issue, practice listening. If necessary, take a few deep breaths as you resist the impulse to offer advice right away.
Try one of the following reactions the next time your child comes to you with a problem.
Provide choices, such as, “Would you like to keep trying, take a break, or ask for help?”
Validate your child’s feelings: “You seem frustrated. I understand why you feel that way.”
Ask your child open-ended questions such as, “How do you think you can solve this?” or, “What solutions have you tried? What else could you try?” Brainstorm together, but let your child take the lead. Don’t push an agenda.
If your child is truly stuck, you can try prompting with questions like, “What do you think would happen if you tried ________?”
You can also ask, “What do you need from me?” This tells your child that you are there for them in a supporting role, but still gives them ownership and agency.
2. Act with the mindset you want to see.
Model the words and attitude you want to see in your child when you are faced with difficulties or face challenges youself.
Say things like, “This is difficult. I want a break,” or “This is difficult. I’ll continue to try. You may also say, “This is difficult. Can you assist me?
To help you come up with ideas for your problem or challenge, enlist the aid of your child.
Be careful not to criticize yourself or say things like, “I can’t do this.” If you see that you’re losing your cool, take a few calm breaths and tell yourself, “I can manage this.”
Concentrate on the good. A lesson was it learned? Did you get better? Did you succeed in getting through it, and how wonderful did it feel?